MY MOTHER IS A VIRGIN
(Solving Marital Problems)
*_This story is dedicated to all mothers out there with golden hearts._*
As I grew up, I saw many people writing tributes about their mothers and some claimed their
mothers as the best in the world. I will not dispute or debate their claims until they meet my
mum, Mrs. Funmilayo Akerele Musa. My mum was from Ikare Akoko in Ondo state Nigeria. She is
half-literate because she dropped out of school at a tender age when her school principal wanted to have canal knowledge of her in order to help her pay for WAEC fees as her father
was unable to pay. My mum didn’t think twice before rejecting the offer. Her virginity meant a lot
to her and she was willing to forgo her education just to keep it.
Her suffering began in earnest when she eventually lost her dad to the cold hand of diabetes an ailment he couldn’t manage due to poverty. It’s effect in the life of my mum could be likened to a village market signboard. It was always a taboo to be deflowered before marriage in their clan. Any lady found to be intact, the
reverse was the case if any was found to have known a man before her wedding night; she will
be made to face public ridicule at the village square where all the village maidens will be gathered to make mockery of her. Also, her father will be made to return the bride price paid by
her husband in seven folds. She will be kept in the king’s cell for twenty one days without food
but only water. If her husband still loves her after twenty one days, he will accept her as his wife,
if not that was the end of the marriage.
My mum had vowed never to giveaway her virginity to any man but her husband. A decision that
was very difficult to stand by due to her beauty and the level of poverty in her family. Resisting s£xual advances from men was the biggest challenge of her life. The mouth watering offers
from men were temptations that only a strong and determined woman could resist. You may also be wondering how my mother was able to keep her virginity even after having me.
That’s the mystery I want to unravel in this story I want to use my mother’s story to tell the
world that it is still possible to find women whose virginity means a lot more to them than
material things. The level of moral decadence in our society may be on the increase, but there
are still ladies who still hold unto dignity. My mother is a virgin.
Ladies who sleep around because life is difficult for them should read my mother’s story. All
dogs can eat faeces, but not all dog eat faeces.
After my mother dropped out from school, she met Bayo, a guy who fell in love with her and was
ready to everything for her in order to have her. Bayo was a successful electrician who
worked for both government parastatals and multi-national companies. He was one of the most
popular guys in the village because he had what it takes to attract such popularity. He was
handsome, tall, well-to-do and hails from a good family. Not too many women could turn down _his
offer for a relationship. Infact mama said she was shocked when he asked her out considering
the numerous sophisticated ladies that flocked around_ him. My mother’s inferiority complex did
not let her accept Bayo’s proposal for months. She eventually agreed to date him with a strong
condition of NO s£x BEFORE MARRIAGE. Of course Bayo was from Adale village too and he
knew the custom. They dated for a year and half without touching each other. No hugging, no
kissing, no bodily contact etc.
Bayo became a poverty alleviation agent for my mother for a year and half until his friends began
to instigate him against mama. You have a beautiful girl like this and you have never tasted her
before, all your investment will go down the drain if you discover she has been eaten by other men on your wedding night. By this time, my mother had become more beautiful and after because Bayo had polished her with money. Other ladies in the village who wanted Bayo
became jealous of her and began to also plan for her downfall.
Two forces worked against her, pressure from Bayo’s friends to take advance of her and
jealousy from other village girls. Will my mother survive this conspiracy? Hmmmm.
will pay each of you N5000, ‘Tola and Mosun promised Taju and his friends. ‘Consider it done.’
Taju and his friends assured the two ladies. Tola and Mosun were secret admirers of Bayo who
saw my mother as an obstacle to their dream of having Bayo. They planned and join forces
together to take my mother out of their way. On the day they were to carryout their plan, they had laid ambush for my mother having heard
she will be going to the market. Six boys together with Taju had waited for her under a banana
plantation between the village square and the market road. The informant gave an accurate
information about mama’s movement but like the Yoruba people will say “the wall has ears.”
They didn’t know Fola overheard them in one of their conversations on how to carryout their
plan of rape on mama. She had rushed home to inform her father about their plans and he began to monitor their movement, and eventually trailed them to the scene of the proposed atrocity. They didn’t wait for too long when mama showed up. Taju as the gang leader was the one who
stood on her way, where do you think you are going? ‘He harassed her.’ What sort of question is
that? ‘Mama asked. Before she could say anything again Taju had carried her like a baby to
meet his gang members at the banana plantation. She screamed but no one heard her. ‘Today,
the end has come to all your pride in this village, they chorused at her.
”What have I done to you
people, leave me and let me go…. ‘She begged but all to no avail as they went for her clothes.
While they attempted to tear her clothes, Fola’s father appeared like a magician, he was able to
arrest three of the gang members while the others escaped.
Thanks to Fola and her father who saved mama from rape. Mama escaped the plan of her
enemies that day.
The matter was reported to the baale. Taju and his gang were apprehended and dealt with
squarely. Tola and Mosun were not spared as they were excommunicated from the village for
two years. This strengthened there lationship between Bayo and Mama.
Five weeks after mama’s 21st birthdays he missed her period. ‘Young girl, you are four weeks
pregnant. This was what doctor Kehinde told her after she visited the village primary health care
centre. She cried all through the night, how could this happen to me?She questioned herself.
how will I face the shame in this village? who will believe me that I did it just once with Bayo? I
can’t face this shame and reproach, It’s better to take my life before everyone gets to know I’m
I will commit suicide and save myself from this embarrassment. She took the rope and walked
quietly to the backyard tied it to the mango behind the house, and put the rope around her neck. As she attempted removing the chair she was standing on, she woke up. Alas!It was a
dream! Mama took the dream very seriously as warning from God. She stopped visiting Bayo
again but didn’t share the dream with him. Noticing her cold attitude towards him, Bayo began
to pressurize mama for s£x. If you truly love me you have to prove it to me, after all I will be the
one who will marry you? ‘Bayo insisted. ‘What happen to our covenant Bayo? s£x is not a proof
of love. If you love me, you will respect my vow and help me keep it.’ Mama replied. ‘s£x is not a proof of love but collecting my money is a proof of love right? As from today, it is no s£x-no
money relationship. ‘Bayo told mama. Mama left him dejected that day but her strong desire not
to throwaway her virginity was stronger.
Bayo stopped giving mama money or any assistance. He stopped all his good plans for
her and they stopped seeing for four months. The day mama decided to go and see him to
apologize so that they can get back again was a day mama will never forget in her life. Bayo
was not going to take a no for an answer this time. He locked the door and threw away the key
through the window. And the locked up the window and began to force mama into having s£x
with her. ‘Bayo you can’t do this to me,this is not you. Bayo, what has come over you? Don’t
bring a curse upon yourself because of five minutes enjoyment.’ Mama pleaded but Bayo was
bent on taking away her virginity that evening. Please leave me and let me go,don’t do it Bayo, I
beg you in the name of God. They struggled for thirty minutes in which he succeeded in taking
off her clothes and pushed her to the bed, pinning her down. Mama now managed to stretched
out her hand for a bottle of cocacola by the bedside and hit it on Bayo’s head. Blood gushed out from his head and mouth. It was a bad hit that made him lose his strength and he went flat on
the floor. Mama quickly put on her dress and began screaming for help. Neighbours came
around and forcefully broke the door open. They met Bayo in the pool of his blood. ‘What did you
do to him? ‘They asked mama. ‘I didddddd nooottttt… She stammered. He was rushed to the village health centre but unfortunately Bayo died before the the doctor came to see him. Mama
was caught in the web of trouble.
It was another phase of trouble for mama.
Mama became a murderer while defending her virginity. No one was ready to address the
attempted rape that led to the manslaughter, not even the Baale. Mama was kept in the village dungeon for seven days awaiting trial. ‘Funmilayo, why did you kill Bayo? the Baale’s personal
assistant asked on behalf of the council of chiefs. It was an accident sir, he was trying to rape
me and I made an attempt to defend myself, hence he died in the process.
Please sirs I’m guilty
but it wasn’t intentional. I wouldn’t kill the man l love, a man who gave meaning to my life when
everyone abandoned me. Bayo was a good man and I have no reason to kill him, it was an
accident. Mama explained before the council of chiefs.
My mother was sentenced to 20years imprisonment with hard labour. It was 20 years of
bitterness and agony. Her years in prison thought her hard lessons of life. Her determination to remains Virgin until marriage had landed her into 20 years of incarceration. Life became unfair
to a young lady who did what was right.
But the glamour of this life rather chose to smile on the
bad ones. If I had allowed Bayo to take away my precious virginity that day,no one would have heard about it. even I fire ported his attempt to rape me, no one will take me serious because everyone in the village knew us together. Twenty years was like two hundred years in prison.
The prison warders were not friendly. They were brutal and wicked. There was only one female prison warder in charge of the ladies. Anytime she’s not on duty the male warders took turns on the other prison inmates in exchange for one favour or the other. Two months after mama arrived the prison, Mr. Bayo, the head of the prison warders set his eyes on her. Adebayo
Owojola is gone, here is another Adebayo Daniel trying to continue from where Adebayo Owojola stopped. Mama was a moralist, she was never a Christian but she knew god and the redemptive power of
his dear son Jesus Christ. The latter Bayo had more advantage over her as an inmate than the former Bayo. If she has to keep her virginity she knew she needed God. Mama began to pray for
God’s help and started attending the prison fellowship. In no time she became a strong member
of the prison fellowship due to her commitment and dedication. After a years he was made the
women leader of the prisonfellowship.
Mr. Bayo did not give up his lustful desire to sleep with mama but several times mama had
escaped his snares. He continued to push his ambition to fulfill his carnal desire on mama until this fateful day when he had made up his mind like the late Bayo to have mama by all means.
He stayed back after close of work after making arrangements with other female inmates on how he was going to humble mama. An announcement was made in the female room for all
female inmates to report to the office of the head warder immediately. It was late in the night when everyone was ready to go to bed and no one expected any official call to be made at that time of the night but mama was wrong, it was well planned. In haste, every female inmate were assembled at Mr. Bayo’s office. But mama was the only
inmate who came in without her prison garment. Without much a do, Mr. Bayo capitalized on that, ‘Funmi why are you not in your uniform? ‘Mr. Bayo queried angrily. While mama was trying
to explain why she didn’t report wearing her uniform, he l landed her a hot slap.
Did Mr. Bayo succeed in taking mama’s virginity that night?
*_To be Continue…_*