s*x and fasting episode 2

s€× And Fasting PART 2
 
I decided that night that I had had enough of Kenny’s erratic behaviour and we needed
counselling.
I waited for him to come home the next morning but he never showed up. I called him around noon when I was getting worried but he did not pick my call. I got a text shortly after saying,
”I am quite surprised you are looking for me. Don’t worry, I am fine. Don’t let me distract you from God”.
 
I decided it was time to seek counsel from my pastor’s wife. As I sat down with Mummy as we normally call her that evening after a word of prayer and recounted the full story of our challenges from the beginning of the fasting period. I was quite hopeful that I will get solutions on the next step to take. Mummy looked at me and shook her head as I showed her the last text I got from Kenny from my phone. ”Sister Lola, what does the Bible say about our parents and honour?”
 
”Honour your father and mother, that your days
might be long” I quickly replied wondering why
we were talking about my parents when it was
my marriage that needed healing. ”Do you remember when you came to me and
decided you wanted to marry this young man
who was barely a baby in the lord. I warned you
to look for giants in the spirit. If you had honoured
my words, surely the days of your marriage
would have been long”, she said with obvious annoyance. ”I am sorry mummy, I love my husband and I
think he loves God too” ”He loves God? You are still defending his
actions? A man that cannot agree with you in
prayer? That will not deny his body to feed his
spirit? She asked me. ”I am sorry ma” I quickly said. Mummy was
known for her short temper and I did not want to
get on her bad side. ”Anyway the deed has been done. We need to
find a way forward. You see the devil is not
resting. He is obviously seeking to devour your
marriage. Remember the scripture in Ephesians
6: 12 says, we wrestle not against flesh and
blood but against principalities, against powers and against the rulers of the darkness of this
world. The battle is not with your husband. It is a
fight in the spirit”. ”Okay ma” I said. ”The devil knows this fast is going to liberate
your marriage and he wants to stop it at all cost.
The flesh will be satisfied eventually but you need
to be spiritually fortified first. So make sure you
complete it in total consecration to God”. ”Okay ma. What do I now do about his refusal to
come home ma?” ”Oh don’t worry Lola, he will come home. He
is like the prodigal son, he will surely return.
Let us pray my dear”. By the time I left my pastor’s house after about
two hours of prayer. I felt stronger and better.
Kenny was just over reacting and I was definitely on the right course. I just needed to keep praying and not let me faith be shaken. When I got home and met Kenny relaxing in the sitting room, it confirmed to me that everything mummy said was correct since he returned like she had prophesied.
 
As the days passed things got more estranged.
Kenny stopped going to our church and demanded I move to this new church he found. Of course I vehemently refused. It is important to be grounded and not church belly-hopping.
 
I got daily text motivations from my mummy in the lord and that just encouraged me.
 
Finally the last day of the 100 days came and it was announced in church that couples should endeavour to attend together since there was going to be an all night prayer. I begged and pleaded with Kenny but he adamantly refused.
 
I went to church alone that night and prayed every prayer possible. My joy knew no bounds the next
morning because I knew that all the fight I had been n by having with Kenny was finally going to be over. I was going to make sure we had as much s€× as  he wanted that night.
 
It has been a week since I finished fastened Kenny has still not spent a single night in the house.
Every morning he came home to dress for work and didn’t come home till the next morning. Every morning I met him at the door begging and cajoling but it was always the same. He totally ignored me, walked past into the guest room and walked back out once he was done changing cloths and having his bath.
Not one word was ever said in acknowledgment.
 
I began to think I probably should have compromised during the 100 days. I did not expect him to take it this far. I did not even know what plausible solution I could execute. I knew s€× was a big deal to men but it was always painful for me anyway so I was never all excited about it. On our wedding night, when Kenny deflowered me, I thought I was only going to feel the pain for less than a week but it has been six months and every single intimacy we have had was laced with very uncomfortable pain.
Chauvinist as Kenny was, he felt I was just making a mountain out of a molehill and s€× could not be as painful as I was making it to be.
Truth was if not for the sake of procreation I was comfortable not having s€× ever.
The hype is definitely more than the experience.
 
I finally decided that maybe some physical solution was needed since the spiritual was not solving Kenny and I’s problem. I went to Google that afternoon as I got home from work and searched ” how to stop painful s€×”. As soon as I finished reading of different positions to do to ease the pain and how the pain was coming from my mind. I made a few decisions on making sure s€× became enjoyable. Next, I Googled, ”how to sed-ce your husband and I felt so uncomfortable with the sheer number of unholy things I discovered. I decided to take a bold step and put some things I found to practice to ensure Kenny finally stayed home for the night. As alien as it felt, I typed some steamy texts I found online to Kenny at one hour interval each,
 
”I am burning with desire for you honey”
 
When I did not get any response an hour later, I sent another one I found online,
 
”I can’t focus, all I can think about is what you will do to me if you were here with me”
 
Still no response, I sent this 30 minutes later,
 
”You taught me how to make love, tonight I will show you how much I have learnt”
 
I got a response after this saying,
 
”Please I am in a meeting with the board”
 
I was so happy I literally jumped up from my seat.
This was the only statement Kenny had sent to me in a week and I decided to send more.
 
”Just thinking about you in,side of me…”
He responded immediately,
”Stop this rubbish Omolola”
 
I decided I had had enough of Google and composed one text message of my own.
”Please come home and stay tonight. I accept I was wrong. I want to make it right and make it
up to you. Please give me a chance, I love you baby”. He responded simply with, ”Okay”. I was so happy and I quickly jumped up from the couch and drove to the supermarket.
 
I bought a new matching lingerie, a foot m-ssage kit and also full body m-ssage oil. I had read on Google
that m-ssaging the foot and body could do wonders in pointing in the right direction.
 
I also bought a lubricator. Google had taught me so much.
I immediately rushed home after and
prepared fried rice with plantain and peppered chicken for Kenny. By 8pm, I was finally done and
ready for him to walk in. I sat on the sofa in my lingerie and the table was already set.
 
I tried calling Kenny but his phone was off so I waited. I must have slept off on the sofa because the
sound of the door being opened woke me up the next morning at about 7am. Kenny never showed
up last night.
 
He walked in and paused for a
minute staring at me before walking past as usual to the guest room. I sat down in frustration and cried so hærd.
 
I was still crying when he
closed the door.
 
 
…………….To be continued……………